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Now that the shock over the loss of your friends has passed and you are faced with the task of having to honor them with a memorial service, you may be wondering how to go about putting together a service that is appropriate to whom they were as a person. This is very important task and you want to make sure that you do right by your friend and arrange for a memorial service that is what they would want to have represent them if they were planning it. So lets take a minute and look at how to decide a theme for a memorial service.

Now that the shock over the loss of your friends has passed and you are faced with the task of having to honor them with a memorial service, you may be wondering how to go about putting together a service that is appropriate to whom they were as a person. This is very important task and you want to make sure that you do right by your friend and arrange for a memorial service that is what they would want to have represent them if they were planning it. So lets take a minute and look at how to decide a theme for a memorial service.

Before you do anything you need to make sure that you have dealt with your own emotions appropriately. You cannot make good decisions and take care of these arrangements if you are fighting though your own grief. Once you have gotten through your own sorrow you will be better prepared to deal with the task at hand. The first thing that you need to do is to figure out what kinds of person the honoree was in one word. This is a great start to your theme.

Now that you have set forth a basic idea of which the person is you will need to expand on it. You can do this by deciding on a tone. The tone of the service is also a lot about who the person was and how they lived their life. If they were an extremely quiet and conservative person then perhaps your memorial service should be passed on more traditional concepts and should be more somber. If they were an uncommonly outgoing and life filled person then you may want to consider the idea of a celebration of life party.

So you have established the basic concept and the tone of the service not you have to decide the very important aspect of where to have the service. In this case let the spirit of your friend guides you. Where is a place that they loved? Was there a certain spot that moved them, that they drew power from in their life? Did they speak of a favorite childhood place or of a vacation spot that they longed to visit but perhaps never had the chance to? These are all great places to have the memorial service for your friend.

The last very important thing that you will need to think about when panning the theme for the service is the way that guests will be handled. Should your service be private and by invitation, or should the service be welcoming and open to everyone who wishes to attend? Will you serve refreshments and food, or perhaps simple hors d'oeuvres and have a bar, perhaps a potluck where people all bring the foods that the departed loved so much and all share in them as a form of tribute. This is again the place that you should let the life that your friend lived be your guide. Did they keep a private circle of friends or were they friends with the world? Were they comforted by food or booze? Did they like a nice cocktail party or were they the sit and contemplate type? These are the questions that will lead you to the best choice for this particular aspect of the service.

It is hoped that these tips on how to decide a theme for a memorial service are helpful in getting you through this task. This is a difficult time but maybe the planning of the service will put you in closer connection with who your loved one was on a deeper level and help you get through your grief easier.